I've always heard about gossip in hairdressing saloon, i watched it in movies, but i hadn't really faced it already... till yesterday...
Won't tell u wut the conversation was about exactly, but i'll tell you this: we should all know who we really are, and assume it.
Our parents, our close family, our friends, our neighboors, particularly in Africa, define who we gonna be in the future, and that's not healthy, at all.
Je m'explique:
Notre attitude, depuis qu'on est jeunes, has something to do the "politically correct".
Qui définit ce "politiquement correct"?: LES AUTRES.
A la maternelle déjà on doit tout faire pour etre celui qui se salit le moins, pas tant parce que ca donnera bcp de travail à Maman, mais parce qu'elle aura l'impression d'avoir "raté" quelque chose dans votre éducation. Ca se poursuit de la même façon dans tout la scolarité jusqu'au bac.
Après ce "sésame" une partie d'entre nous "Africains", leave home. And there, real problems start.
About that i have something i want u to read, something i found well said. Keep it up lil' sis' BECKY
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Bref tout ca pour dire que les personnes que nous sommes "socialement" ne sont pas forcement celles que nous souhaitions devenir. Celle que notre coeur desire être.
I choose to be a civil engineering "engineer" cause i watched my dad doing so, and i kinda liked it. But most, i thought he would be really proud of me, and love me more if i did the same thing he did.
I'm pretty sure it's the same for a lot of people here.
We do wut we do because of others. Because we wANt to please them, or the contrar. Because we love them, or not.
Because we are expecting some from them.
AND IT'S EXACTLY THE SAME IN WUT CONCERNS OUR LOVE RELATIONSHIPS AND EVEN JUST FRIENDSHIPS.
All human beings hope/desire to be loved by the others. To be admired, to be desired.
So what we do has to do with it.
Unfortunately, our mothers didn't tell us that we should "live our lives". And i think that's a mistake. The aim of all human lives is to be Happy right?
Can we really be happy if we don't :
DO wut we want to do as a job?
Choose the persons we want to hang out with?
Choose our friends?
Choose the life we want to live
I was reaally sad cause, through 3 simple sentences i realised that the image i was sending to people by my attitude, by my words, actually by all wut i show of myself is the complete opposite to the person i'm inside.
So i'm thinking: MAYBE WUT I THINK OF THE PEOPLE I MEET ( they WONT EVER EVER MATCH WITH MY PERSONNALITY so we cant be friends) BECAUSE OF WUT I FEEL WATCHING THEM IS completely stupid, cause they maybe aren't what/who they seem to be...
To conclude, the aim of this article was to point on one point: WE SHOULD ALL LIVE OUR LIVES AS OUR HEARTS TELL US TO..
Here's a quote i love:
"Be yourself! This means doing what you want, achieving your goals not living up to others expectations because this is your life."
KateeP.
